No More Self-Abandonment: Terri Cole’s Boundary Boss Secrets to Reclaim Your Energy
Ever feel like you’re maxed out—trying to do it all at work, at home, and in your relationships—only to end up drained, resentful, or secretly exhausted? If you’re nodding along, this week’s episode of Can’t Be Contained is about to be your medicine.
I’m sitting down with my dear friend and the boundary queen herself, Terri Cole. Terri’s not just a psychotherapist and bestselling author—she’s the woman who helps high-functioning women finally break free from burnout by reclaiming their energy and saying yes to themselves.
Together, we unravel the sneaky patterns that keep us overgiving—why we say “yes” when our whole body is screaming “no,” how people-pleasing gets wired in so deep, and why true intimacy always begins with honoring our own needs first.
But here’s what I love about Terri—she doesn’t just talk about boundaries as theory. She makes them doable, tangible, and soul-shifting. In this convo, we get real about:
✨ The exact boundaries you need to end chronic overwhelm
✨ How to speak your truth with love instead of conflict
✨ Why “fighting dirty” erodes safety (and what to do instead)
✨ And the wild ways codependency sneaks into business, leadership, and even our dreams
You’ll walk away with Terri’s game-changing tools—like the “OK + Not OK List” and her powerful three cues for clarity—so you can finally step into being the Boundary Boss you were born to be.
If you’re ready to call your energy back, stop abandoning yourself, and pour your life force into what actually lights you up… this episode is your permission slip.
Hit play, and let’s do this together.
Show Notes:
00:00 Reclaiming Energy: Boundaries & Trust
04:39 “Grounded Guidance & Emotional Clarity”
09:12 Prioritize Self-Care and Preferences
11:12 “Personal Boundaries and Emotional Awareness”
16:05 “Need Understanding, Not Fixing”
17:04 “Starting with Vulnerability”
20:53 Nervous System Resilience in Conflict
25:34 Ineffective Conflict Resolution in Relationships
29:49 Redefining Codependency: High-Functioning Insight
32:20 High-Functioning Codependency Struggles
35:52 Channeling Anxiety into Creativity
38:35 Personal Boundaries in Relationships
43:06 “Infusing Relationships with New Energy”
45:09 “Travel Enhances Personal Growth”
47:28 Different Strokes for Different Folks
50:18 “Terri Cole’s Updates & Link Hub”
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Links:
Free High Functioning Codependency Toolkit: https://www.terricole.com/hfcc
Website: http://terricole.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/
The Terri Cole Show Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast/
About Terri Cole:
Terri Cole is the absolute boundary boss—psychotherapist, bestselling author, and the go-to expert for high-functioning women who are done with people-pleasing, burnout, and codependency. With decades of experience, Terri has helped thousands of powerhouse women (yes, the ones who “can do it all”) get clear on their preferences, limits, and deal breakers so they can reclaim their energy, set fierce boundaries, and actually enjoy their lives and relationships.
She’s the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much, a sought-after coach, and the host of the Terri Cole Show podcast, where she serves up no-BS wisdom, compassion, and real-life strategies for living authentically. Terri’s mission? To help women everywhere stop self-abandoning, communicate like a queen, and lead with freedom, clarity, and joy. If you’re ready to stop settling and start thriving, Terri is the woman you want by your side.
About the host, Samantha Skelly
Samantha Skelly is a breathwork pioneer, serial entrepreneur, and #1 Best Selling Author who has spent the last decade revolutionizing the personal and spiritual development industries. She founded one of the largest breathwork companies worldwide. Pause Breathwork has a mission to help 1,000,000 people worldwide tap into their infinite potential using breathwork. It has grown into a multi-million dollar wellness company that has certified nearly 1,500 people in 27 countries, and thousands more use the Pause Breathwork Mobile App every day. She’s also a passionate speaker who has shared her message on over 400 stages, appearing on networks and in publications worldwide.
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Can’t Be Contained’ is the unscripted, unedited – fully uncontained journal entries & real-life experiences of those who follow their bliss & intuitive hits, the freedom seekers, the sacred rebels – the ones who are here to disrupt what preceded us & create what is ahead of us. Subscribe now to stay tuned for every episode!
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James Wedmore on Using Spirituality to Fuel Success
Entrepreneurship. It’s an ambitious endeavour. For many, pursuing their ambitions unfortunately comes at the price of authenticity. However, on this week’s episode of Can’t Be Contained, I’m joined by entrepreneur and personal development advocate James Wedmore who proves that ambition and authenticity are not mutually exclusive!
James graciously shares his journey from logical atheist to embracing spiritual growth—a journey which has had a profound impact on his success in the entrepreneurial space. James and I explore the idea that the environment one lives in can shape both their personal and professional development—-an idea James can back up with his stories of the “tightrope walk” that is living in Sedona, California. In between James’ stories of financial hardship, and examining the idea of sacred reciprocity, James and I traverse topics such as manifesting goals, fostering genuine connection in business, and the link between self-worth and burnout.
So why not join James and myself in this inspiring and extensive episode? If you’ve ever found your authentic spirit fading in the face of professional success, James may just have the insights you’re looking for!
Show Notes:
00:00 Sedona demands personal growth and balance.
06:34 Lessons from past mistakes, no regrets.
13:56 Don’t overextend; balance business and personal commitments.
16:56 Boundaries are important; people test them.
25:14 Listening and spiritual growth transformed their life.
29:20 Jen catapulted my growth; she’s influential.
32:04 Creating meaningful gifts reflects personal effort.
36:57 Keep your word consistently to transform life.
44:11 Busy schedule limits time with friends.
50:04 2019 revolutionized my views on spirituality.
54:11 Don’t take life too seriously; embrace play.
01:01:50 Big goals require adapting to changing demands.
01:04:57 Reconnected love despite challenging circumstances strengthens bond.
01:09:09 Pain is a lesson guiding personal growth.
01:17:25 Every interaction impacts with your unique purpose.
01:20:50 Patience and passion make long-term success possible.
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About James Wedmore:
With over 15 years experience as an expert running a consistent 8-figure a year online business, James Wedmore has spent the last decade teaching entrepreneurs how to launch and scale their digital brands. Beginning his career as “The YouTube Guy,” James made a name for himself teaching online experts how to leverage the power of video and YouTube marketing to reach more people, share their message and convert more customers. In 2016, James made a massive shift to focus on a big gap missing in the marketplace: the mindset needed for entrepreneurship. He launched a totally woo-woo podcast, the Mind Your Business Podcast and his signature program, Business By Design. Today he helps coaches, experts, content creators, and authors not only to craft better marketing messages but also how to ditch the “hustle” mentality and create true and lasting success from the inside out.
Links:
Podcast: https://www.mindyourbusinesspodcast.com/
Website: https://www.jameswedmoretraining.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/jameswedmore/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameswedmore/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/jameswedmore
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/James-Wedmore-61550499597027/
About the host, Samantha Skelly
Samantha Skelly is a breathwork pioneer, serial entrepreneur, and #1 Best Selling Author who has spent the last decade revolutionizing the personal and spiritual development industries. She founded one of the largest breathwork companies worldwide. Pause Breathwork has a mission to help 1,000,000 people worldwide tap into their infinite potential using breathwork. It has grown into a multi-million dollar wellness company that has certified nearly 1,500 people in 27 countries, and thousands more use the Pause Breathwork Mobile App every day. She’s also a passionate speaker who has shared her message on over 400 stages, appearing on networks and in publications worldwide.
Check out our community for more details, programs, and tips on how to thrive as a breathwork facilitator and somatic coach!
Pause Breathwork App | Samantha’s Instagram | Pause Breathwork Instagram | Facebook | Book
About the Can’t Be Contained Podcast
Can’t Be Contained’ is the unscripted, unedited – fully uncontained journal entries & real-life experiences of those who follow their bliss & intuitive hits, the freedom seekers, the sacred rebels – the ones who are here to disrupt what preceded us & create what is ahead of us. Subscribe now to stay tuned for every episode!
